Most Popular Blogs of 2017

Hello world!

As the year comes to a close I thought it would be fun to look at the blogs that you all liked the most from this last year. Here is the top 10 blogs by popularity from 2017 along with a list of my personal top 5 favorites that didn’t make the to 10. Hope you all enjoy them and happy new year!

Top Ten Most Popular Blogs:

  1. Why the Christian Creation Model makes more sense of suffering than any other religion.
  2. The Single Most Damaging Statement to the Christian Faith
  3. If God is Loving Why is the Path to Heaven so Narrow?
  4. Why doesn’t God intervene to stop those who are doing evil?
  5. The Frightful Alternatives if Jesus Isn’t God.
  6. If you only learn one thing for defending Christianity, learn this.
  7. Three Blunders Atheists make arguing against God
  8. Does God send people to hell?
  9. Why does God seem different in the New Testament and the Old Testament?
  10. C.S. Lewis and how God exists with Pain and Suffering in the world
    Noah’s Favorite Five:

    1. Jesus Wouldn’t Argue. . .
    2. Why Even if you are pro-choice you should be angry with Planned Parenthood
    3. Is Christianity as violent as Islam?
    4. Pseudo Tolerance
    5. Thank you Atheist YouTuber JaclynGlenn

The Decomposition of Community (Part 3)…Option Paralysis FOMO

This is the third part of a blog series on a trend I have noticed with myself and my friends. Real community seems to be harder and harder to come by. More work seems to be producing less results. Why is this?

This next part to the series basically builds off of part one and two, so please check them out.

Option paralysis FOMO

Options have genuinely created a paralysis of commitment in today’s world. We see before us an endless array of entertainment thru media like Netflix, a countless plethora of people to hang out with via social media and our cell phones, and a growing grouping of activities from trendy niches and athletic inventions.

All of this has made us uneasy to commit to one thing in the fear better options may present themselves. We hold out for the movie we want to see, people we enjoy more, or activities that better fit what we enjoy.

The question guiding our decisions is ‘what if something better comes along?’, and so we don’t commit to anything. I’ve heard some call it Option Paralysis in which we are so overwhelmed with options that we end up choosing nothing. One of my friends calls it FOMO, Fear Of Missing Out. I think that says it pretty well, we don’t commit because we think we may miss something else.

We do not take a moment to think that it was in fellowship with our friends and family that our love of one activity grew over another. It was the time with our parents that made us love hiking. It was during the games with our now friends that we grew to like them or even that game itself.

We too confidently assume we know what things or who, we will or will not like. One of my best friends I did not like till years after we met. Had I not been willing to give him a chance I would never have the amazing friendship we have now.

Another fact we ignore is that our commitment should not be rooted in ourselves. As Christians we are called to love one another. So perhaps we should not commit to fellowship with someone because we need it or because we will enjoy it, but because our neighbor needs it or will enjoy it.

I do this. I can choose anything but to hang out with that person or do that thing. So when I throw out this challenge to you know that I am in the same boat. So here is the challenge, next time you are in option paralysis, figure out which option is the most social, and do that. Don’t go what you wants or you ‘need’, choose community.

In a world so overrun with options we have begun to think the world is about us. It’s not. Don’t give into FOMO.

The Decomposition of Community (Part 2) The Illusion of Community

This is the second part of a blog about a growing trend I have observed. Community is not nearly as easy as it used to be in the 90’s and early 2000’s. Back then it took minimal effort and persuasion to convince people to hang out and get together. More recently I have found that getting a group together to do… well… anything takes so much effort that often results in poor results. What has caused this trend? That’s what this blog serious is trying to answer. Click here to check out part one.

The illusion of Community

Growing up loneliness and boredom had one cure.

Go do something, with someone.

Technology has changed this, giving us a vast array of cheap social imitations. Loneliness can be ‘cured’ by a quick browse of Facebook, stalking that potential significant other’s profile or your friend that moved away. For a moment it makes you feel like you really did interact with them. You don’t have to like anything, comment on anything, send a message. In fact, you don’t have to interact at all with your chosen stalk for the night. They may never know that you got your social fix for the night by browsing their profile, but it doesn’t matter. You got your fill.

In the end you feel like you have been social, and the loneliness is gone for the night.

We do this. I’ve done this.

But at what price? I’ve filled up my social tank with salt water that will ultimately only make me more thirsty. When the day comes that I really need genuine relationship will it be there? I haven’t invested in real relationships so why would people feel inclined to invest in one with me now?

I’ve essentially tasted my food and spit it out. My mind thinks I’ve been feed so the craving is gone, for now. But when it comes back it will be stronger then ever. I could feed and spit out again, but if I continue down this trend I will eventually die from lack of fellowship.

This isn’t to say that all Facebook binges are acts of social bulimia. Sometimes it’s a good relaxer at the end of the day. If your job is rather social you may even feel facebook is the most social interaction that you can handle for the moment. But here is my challenge to you, don’t let Facebook or other social media outlets start filling your need for social interaction.

Next time you are on social media ask yourself if you are trying to drug your loneliness. Then ask yourself if there is any reason you shouldn’t be seeking genuine fellowship via a phone call or face to face interaction instead of a media screen. Be honest with yourself when you know your excuse isn’t good enough.

The Decomposition of Community (Part 1)

Growing up my house was known as the party house. If there was a some big get together with friends it was a good bet that everyone would be heading to the Myers house. Hosting and arranging get togethers was something my mom grew in my siblings and I at an early age, and to this day we all love being the source of social events.I still enjoy hosting or arranging get togethers, but there has been a change in the last few years.

No one comes.

I haven’t changed the way I host or invite people, but when I am used to being able to get together six people very easily, I find myself scratching the bottom of the barrel to find one or two.

As I have thought over what has caused this shift there are a few things that I think have changed the culture we now live as apposed to how we grew up that have caused what I am calling the ‘Decomposition of Community.

This blog post is the first in a series I have written about those things.

Let your yes be yes

Our ability to be able to keep ‘connected’ with everyone has created a lack of commitment to the things we say yes to.

We now have the ability to cancel plans with someone at the drop of a hat. Where before we would have to call someone to cancel or had to follow thru because there was no way to tell them we changed our minds, we now are able to send a quick text; ‘can’t make it… Sorry😕’.

In one sense this seems convenient. Things happen, it’s life. At least you can let your friend know now that your toilet exploded and you can’t meet them for Starbucks anymore. Unfortunately, I don’t think we usually use this improved ease of communication to tell our friends we have to cancel for legitimate reasons.

Instead, we send a text hoping they won’t ask why we can’t come, because we had a long day and we don’t want to go out again. We wouldn’t call them, because we know it’s a bad excuse and they would call us on it over the phone.

We send a text because it’s quick, because it’s impersonal, because we don’t always love the time we spend with that person, and because we can’t be bothered to call someone who we made a commitment to.

If this challenges you, let me just say that I do it too. I’ve been that guy. I’ve cancelled plans for the simple reason that I didn’t want to in that moment. It’s so easy to justify it saying ‘they will understand’ or ‘we will get together another time’. If I am honest I know I probably wouldn’t cancel those meet ups if I had to call them, but it is so easy to just send a quick text and not deal with hearing their disappointment on the other end, no matter how little they may give it away.

I’ve also, at least if I were to guess, been on the other end of it. There have been times that I was looking forward to meeting with a friend only to have them cancel, perhaps repeatedly for some vague ‘I had something come up’ or ‘I need to rest’ or ‘work went long’. It’s not fun. And there a few times I would have been willing to put some money on their excuse being fake.

So here is my challenge. Next time you think about canceling with someone, call them. If you can’t call them then you probably don’t have a good enough reason to cancel. When we start giving excuses like these things we are not taking Jesus words seriously to ‘let your yes be yes and your no be no’. Be a person of your word. If you commit to something follow thru.